Hello and welcome to my blog! I am single and living in San Francisco. I got married in 2002 and divorced in 2005. I was living in SF before I got married in my mid to late 20's and returned post divorce while in my mid 30's. In my marriage and relationships after, I have had many dysfunctional relationships in which I've tried to get an emotionally unavailable person to return my love. I think you love someone because you connect at a level that lights you up and because that person makes you feel the way others can't. If that feeling is absent, then you should be honest with yourself and communicate your feelings. I always say, “use your voice”. Some guys have not been happy with these conversations – some looked at me like I was speaking another language (“did you really just point out my fault(s)?!”), some left (“I’m not a good teammate”), some are sorry they ran away and come back (“I will do whatever it takes to make this work”), some have initiated these conversations with me (“I met someone else”), some have cried (“I thought you were the one”), I have cried (“I will miss you so much”), and some are just plain too funny (“I just realized that after you pointed out my faults, that I’m not that into you anymore”). Albeit, not one of these guys has stayed and tried to make it work with me. While I was sharing all these stories with my family and friends, they encouraged me to write everything down so one day I could share them with others. So each story is a blog post. Who knows? Maybe one day I will turn this into a book…maybe I will be on Oprah or meet Sarah Jessica Parker! Enjoy!
