I was home one night perusing the online dating site and came across a cute guy with a great smile. His profile said he was a counselor who liked to scuba dive, workout, hike, go to concerts, and play with his 2 dogs. I emailed him asking if he wanted to talk and emailed back yes. I gave him my number and he called the next night. Turns out counselor was code for – C-O-P! YES! For those of you who don’t know my background – I used to work in law enforcement as an Intelligence Analyst for narcotics trafficking investigations. I LOVED that job and I LOVED working with cops! I’m definitely a cop groupie as well as a football player groupie! I’m ecstatic to hear he is not ONLY a cop, but a K-9 cop to boot! His German Sheppard is fairly new and young with a lot of learning to do – so he’s hard to take sometimes. His previous dog didn’t like the new dog at all so he had to send this dog to live with his co-worker. My dog goes head to head with the Sheppard, but since the Sheppard doesn’t let up – my dog can barely move after visiting for a few hours. Anyway – back to the cop! So we talked (or at least I talked) for about 2 hours in our first phone conversation. I rambled on and on about my love for law enforcement and “back when I worked in the field”…OMG stop me! But it seemed like he enjoyed my chatter and we made plans to meet that weekend for a hike with the dogs. When we met at the hike spot, he drove up in a Volvo XC90 – my dream car! And he was SO CUTE! A few inches taller than me, great smile and I was instantly enamored. My got the dogs situated and comfortable and we started on the hike. Once again in my nervousness (which as you know is rare) I rambled on and on about nothing and everything. I’m not sure if I even finished sentences or stories! But we couldn’t stop talking and the energy was great so I was happy, talkative self. After the hike, he asked if I wanted coffee – um, yes I will pretend I like coffee to spend more time with you! So we continued the date at the coffee shop. After more talking, we started talking about our holiday plans. He asked me if I wanted to hang out for New Years and I said yes! And then he told me he was going to Fiji in a few weeks. I told him I was jealous that I always wanted to go. So he asked if I wanted to join him! OMG!! I said I would see what the costs were and I would think about it. I had to go after that so we said goodbye and hugged. He texted me soon after that and gave me the airline ticket price and said the accommodations would be covered since he already booked them. I ran the idea by some friends (most said go) and of course my mother said I shouldn’t go – that it would be so irresponsible. I booked my ticket 2 days later! OMG am I really going to Fiji with a guy I met for 2 hours? I told him I got the ticket and he was ecstatic – thank goodness! We made plans for our 2nd date for that weekend. My dog and I went over to his house that Saturday night – he was making me dinner. We drank wine, talked, laughed, watched the dogs play, ate dinner, sat in the hot tub (he gave me clothes) ,and watched a movie. I decided after hearing the storm outside get stronger to stay the night. Why not? We were going away together in a few weeks anyway! So we get into his bed and fall asleep. The next morning we stayed in bed til 2pm – just talking and cuddling. We talked about not having sex and waiting til maybe Fiji? No way we decided. Maybe we will just wait until our next date! We decided to go out to lunch and we couldn’t stop talking about how proud of ourselves we were that we didn’t cave to the temptations and have sex! Then we got coffee and went back to his place to cuddle on the couch/nap /put a movie on. I left that night – our 2nd date was 24 hours. We texted the next few days about how excited we were to have sex! Date #3 was a bonus – I was able to work from home a few days before Christmas so that morning I took the oatmeal I made for us the night before in the slow cooker and went to his place to wake him up. I got there and crawled into his bed to wake him up. After an hour of talking and cuddling, the cuddling turned into a serious make out session. We talked about waiting again – and then I couldn’t take the temptation anymore! I said ok – let’s do this! So we had sex! The “build-up” was worth it – it was good! Not amazing or porn star like I had before – but good! And I was expecting it to get even better – especially on a nude beach in Fiji! We said goodbye in the afternoon when he had to go to work. Then I left for my Christmas trip with my family. I’m good at keeping in touch and being thoughtful – so I texted once a day and sent a few pics of me skiing and my dog playing in the snow. He always responded but I realized after a few days he wasn’t initiating any texts – not even a Merry Christmas text. So by the end of the weekend, I was annoyed and sent him a text asking if anything was wrong since he was initiating any texts.
*Sigh*. He said he was sorry and he would do his best to initiate texts. The next day he texted me telling to have a good return trip home. Nice! We talked when I got home and he gave me some “bad news” – he wanted to still hang out for his birthday that week, but he can’t hang out on New Years Eve. His bff and New Years Eve go out buddy booked a trip for them months ago and just surprised him with it. I was disappointed but said that was fine. I decided to create a plan for his Birthday – a hike in the morning with our dogs, massages, downtime at his house (nap, hot tub, sex) and then a nice dinner out. Stayed tuned…
